As part of
being an SSA Missionary, I wanted to start putting together a list of resources
about same-sex attraction, both to help those who struggle and to help those
who love those who struggle. Of course it’s not good to fixate on the problem
too much, but I believe that proper understanding can and will help those who
struggle with same-sex attraction feel more comfortable, understood, and
welcome in the church.
I figured an
appropriate resource to start with would be Ty Mansfield’s book “Voices
of Hope”. Over the past couple weeks, I have been reading a lot from “Voices
of Hope”. The stories I read about men and women who have dealt with same-sex
attraction (in addition to several parents, spouses, and priesthood leaders)
were inspiring and I could feel the Spirit testify as I read of their trials,
mistakes, and eventually came to understand the healing power of the Atonement,
helping them recover from the pains of sin, guilt, shame, and loneliness.
The book has
six chapters, each focusing on a different theme. Each chapter begins with a
doctrinal essay by some noted LDS authors (including Brad Wilcox and Robert
Millet). After that, each chapter has three or four stories by someone whose
life has been touched by SSA (either personally or because of someone they know
that struggles). Some of the ones I found especially powerful were written by
Kirk Reidman, Tyler Moore, and Jeff Bennion. One of the things I loved about
Kirk’s story was the intensely personal message of hope and how he found hope
in this life, despite his struggles with same-sex attraction. Tyler’s story was
one that I found particularly intriguing. His story is entitled “Being My True
Self”. He talked about his journey, arriving at the point that he came to understand
that being true to himself did not require him to live a gay lifestyle, as many
believe, because the gospel was more important to him than his sexuality.
I especially
wanted to write about Voices of Hope today for a specific reason. Earlier today,
I drove up to Alpine, Utah to film my video for the Voices of Hope Project. As an extension
of Ty Mansfield’s book, I was filmed as I told my story about my experiences
with SSA. I was very excited to participate in this endeavor as I tried to pull
from my heart the lessons that I learned from my experiences and trials. I’m
not sure how well it went exactly, but that’s what post-production is for
right?
The website
isn’t fully up yet, but this video of Ty introducing the website gives a good
overview of what we’re doing and why we’re doing it. I know that the gospel is
the only way to find true happiness. I know that through the Atonement I can
find strength and peace.
Until next
time, remember that because of the Atonement, it gets better.
Spencer, by adding your voice, you are helping to peel back the layers of darkness that hide the real miracles that can occur in a person's life. You are exposing people to hope, and that is an awesome thing. Welcome. I look forward to serving with you in as an SSA missionary. Together, as men attracted to men, and as a group of men who are faithful to the gospel of Jesus Christ, we will change the world. Seriously. The world!
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