Wow! It’s kinda late, but I
wanted to write this post, so here we go. This morning, I was reading in 2
Nephi 28 for my scripture study. Verse 21
caught my attention. In the past, I’ve had discussions with one of my friends
(let’s call him Calvin) about problems we’ve seen in the church. One concern he’s
brought up is that (especially in priesthood) we act as though none of us have
problems.
All is well in Zion?
Let me tell you, those people
couldn’t be more wrong. If I can be blunt, what kind of rock do you have to
live under to realize how many problems we have in the church? In our quorums?
It irks me at times to have lessons about home teaching in elders quorum and
hear some guy say that it’s more important for us to home teach the girls we’re
assigned to than the guys. Really? I’ve heard that viewpoint explained that it’s
because the girls don’t have roommates who can provide a priesthood blessing.
That may be a reason to ensure that the girls get home taught. However, it’s
not good enough for me.
All is well in Zion? No.
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What is it with our society that
tells that that we can’t have problems? Even in the church, where we’re taught
that each of us will experience trials. Yet, it seems so common that I see
people around BYU that have smiles almost surgically plastered to their face in
a way that I honestly don’t believe they’re happy. Pride? Is that the problem?
We can’t look weak? Or do people really believe that there aren’t problems? Are
many of us actually in denial?
All is well in Zion? Not even
close.
I have friends who deal with pornography
problems. I have friends who deal with depression and anxiety. I have friends
who are stressed out on a daily basis by their classes. I have friends who are
distressed by family problems. I have friends who are lonely because, despite
their efforts, they are single. I have friends who have been down because of a
bad breakup. Am I saying that we should announce our struggles and our problems
over the pulpit during testimony meeting? No. I’ve been guilty of that; I’ve
been prompted to mention my SSA over the pulpit while bearing my testimony
(usually in reference to something it has taught me about the Atonement).
However, we should be able to be
authentic with those we trust. All of us have friends (even if your only friend
is your bishop, you have a friend). Why not be a little vulnerable and feel the
support that comes from being authentic with those we love? Being vulnerable
and being authentic is scary (trust me; I’ve had some VERY
scary days because of it).
As I finish off this post, I’m
not sure what to really say. Don’t let the adversary let you believe all is
perfect and Zion has no problems. That was never part of the Lord’s
definition of Zion. In fact, the most
Zion-like places I’ve been have been full of people that have been open to
each other about their flaws and have been
authentic with each other. However, at the same time, don’t be distressed.
Things may not be perfect; we live in a fallen world. The amazing thing about
that is that that is why Jesus Christ performed the Atonement, so that we could
find that peace amongst affliction and so that we can have hope that it gets
better.
Thank you for your posts. I haven't read all of them, but the ones that I have read I have loved. I really appreciate this one. I think that many want us to believe that "all is well in Zion." That was something that I struggled with and was a huge contributor to my depression and a few suicide attempts. I now am working to live a more open life that is honest with those around me. While I am not in a position at this point in my life to be completely public, as you are, on my blog I try to share what is really going on. I am more open to those in my life. I thank you for sharing this needed topic.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words. Honestly, if you don't feel the need to be public, you don't have to. I did it because the Lord asked me to. So if you decide to become public, make sure you involve the Lord in that decision. If He says yes, it's a beautiful thing. Also, if you ever need anything, shoot me an email: spencer3101@gmail.com.
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